My friendly new neighbors are artists. One designs user-friendly good-to-look-at tech
solutions. And the other one makes beautiful designs on paper, cakes and
rangolis.
The other
day I happened to compliment them on their creativity…and ended up saying,” So
both of you are artists, but in the reverse way. While she is the techie, he is
the painter!!”
And as soon
as I said it, I realized my mistake. I allowed the bias to creep in. And I
allowed it, even though my own father was a painter.
“Who helps
your daughter with her studies and home-assignments? I see you usually working till late in office.” My
colleague questioned.
“My husband
does. And actually, both of us prefer it that way.” I replied. “He is a better
teacher than I am and he enjoys teaching.”
She seemed
surprised. The bias had crept in. And it came even though she is a working
mother, balancing between work and family, with equal contribution from her
spouse.
The other
day we were getting into our car, when we were greeted by an elderly
neighbor. Seeing me get into the driver’s seat, she teased my husband, “See,
good you taught her how to drive. Today it’s convenient for you too.” The bias
had crept in.
“He didn’t teach
me how to drive.” I retorted. “I have been driving from the time I was in
college, much before I met him. He only taught me how to cook omelettes.”
A group of us
were casually chatting the other day, when the conversation reached the recent MeToo
movement. My friend picked up his mobile and showed us a recent pic of an
ex-colleague. This was a comment on a female colleague’s dress, and its
correlation to any unethical behavior.
The bias
had crept in. And it did, even though he is a liberal and open-minded individual,
with modern thinking and ideologies.
And this is
what experts call as ‘Unconscious Bias’. The bias which creeps into our minds,
words and actions, and many a times without us even realizing it. So even though in principle we dont have a bias, for eg against men cooking or helping in household work, it may still show-up in our words or actions or reactions.
Unconscious bias plagues people from all age groups, ethnicities, socio-economic and educational backgrounds. And though these mistakes are mostly unintentional, there is but one way to correct them. To apologize. To self and to others too. To consciously correct the unconscious bias.
Unconscious bias plagues people from all age groups, ethnicities, socio-economic and educational backgrounds. And though these mistakes are mostly unintentional, there is but one way to correct them. To apologize. To self and to others too. To consciously correct the unconscious bias.
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